an experience…

I will never say yes to someone just because I’m nice and dunno how to say no. Ok. It’s down in ‘black and white’ now.

I had an interesting dinner today with someone I just met… I agreed to it even though my gut feel told me no. It wasn’t exactly him (maybe it was me?), and it wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy dinner, but there is really no need to mumble through three-quarters of the dinner on random, useless stuff. I would rather have gotten to know him better. At least I can judge you on your likes/interests/lifestyle. I still think he’s a nice enough guy, but sorry, we just don’t suit.

A couple of pointers for guys on what not to do when trying to get to know a girl -

- Please do not wear polo shirt and jeans when it’s a work night. Chances are, the girl will turn up in office clothes and make you look super under-dressed.

- Do NOT insinuate that the girl is fat. TMD! I know i’m not super skinny, but saying sth along the lines of  ”Oh, I didn’t expect you to be in PR cause of the way you look and I didn’t know you were so sociable” (at least this was the gist of what he said) is just plain digging your own grave. *stabs at figurine*

- Stop trying to tell stories if you can’t remember the details. If you can’t even remember the name of the protagonist, please skip the story.

- I’m really not interested to learn how earth was formed. Seeing your surprise reaction to how I know about the ozone layer and the ‘big bang’ theory is just plain insulting.

- Do NOT ask me whether Einstein and Newton are the same person. The last I checked, neither Albert Newton or Isaac Einstein existed.

- Unless you feel really strongly that you need to inform the girl of your political affiliations or your views on politics, please leave this topic alone. It’s a potentially divisive topic.

- Do not say things like “做有钱人最好” cause we are not. period. Also, why complain about the cost of living and how Singapore is not an ideal place to live in? I happen to be quite ok staying on this sunny island. Thanks.

- Do not pepper your sentences with ‘i heard’, ‘my friend said’. Just say what you think or know.

- Please text in decent English with proper grammar. Speak the same way if possible. if your ‘england’ is not that good, I can try to converse in mandarin. But if your mandarin is also not good, I can’t help you.

I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or rude or anything. I’m not exactly annoyed either. Just that I think we could have avoided this whole episode if I just knew how to say ‘no’. So I guess the fault’s as much mine as yours.  I don’t mean to illustrate the gulf between us or to ‘one-up’ you, but it just happened. Maybe you could have found out more bout me first. I think I’m a simple enough person to understand. I admit I have a wide variety of interest. Why then couldn’t we have found sth in common to talk about?

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